byll

I've always believed that relationships between men and women was based on friendship and, from that point, a magical spark might ignite an evolution into that 'something more'. But the foundation always began as friends. Perhaps I 'never grew up' or refused to 'play the field' for believing this. And that's just as well because relationships were better forged in childhood as friends when it wasn't a game and there were rules. Women were not defined as body parts and the only rule, simply put, was thinking about the other person s feelings over your own. That meant telling the truth, admitting you needed that person's trust and not being afraid of exposing your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Honesty and that true intimacy used to be rewarded with reciprocity. Now the dating game invites scrutiny and evaluation. The winner is the most effective liar. So we reap rewards of modern ways and are dismissive of golden days.